Signs that progesterone is critically low…
A week ago I told you something I had only told my sister.
About the spotting. The shorter cycles. The moment I thought — at 39 — that my body was already giving up on me.
A lot of you wrote back. And I want you to know I read every single one of those replies.
So I want to give you the next piece. The part I have not said out loud yet.
Because here is the thing about what I was experiencing: I did not feel physically terrible. That is actually what made it so hard to name.
I was still going to the gym four days a week, lifting heavy. I was still hitting PRs — sometimes. But I was working harder than I ever had and getting less back. I kept adding more cardio, more sauna, more biohacking tools, more tactics. I kept thinking the answer was more. And my body just quietly stopped responding.
My libido was gone. Not low — gone. And I kept telling myself that was just what happened when you were busy and tired and had three kids and a business.
In the gym, I was grinding. But the drive that used to be there — the one that made me want to push, to compete with myself, to show up hungry — it was fading. I did not want to admit that.
And my business. Every single month I wanted to throw it all to the ground. I know what I am doing. I know how to show up. But I could not make myself want to. Real days felt impossible. Showing up for my family felt like something I was performing rather than something I actually had energy for. I kept pushing through, trying new strategies, telling myself it was mindset, telling myself to just do the work.
It was not mindset.
I was not sleeping well. I was waking up earlier than normal and could not get back down. Shifting all night. That is not me — I have always been a good sleeper. But I kept dismissing it because I was not exhausted in the dramatic way. I was just... dimmer than I used to be.
And every time I brought it up, my doctor told me I was fine.
Here is what I know now that I did not know then:
What I was describing is what happens when progesterone is critically low — not because of age, but because of output. Because I had been running my nervous system at full capacity for years without ever truly recovering. Because every stressor I added — more cardio, more sauna, more hustle — was another signal to my body that it was not safe to produce the hormones that make you feel like yourself.
Progesterone is your drive, your calm, your libido, your sleep architecture, your ability to feel motivated and present. When it drops, you do not always feel sick. You just feel like a quieter, flatter version of yourself. You keep functioning. You keep pushing. But the spark is gone.
And here is the connection that most people are not making: when progesterone drops, your mast cells lose their stabilizer. Histamine floods the system. And that histamine is behind the sleep disruption, the anxiety that creeps in, the feeling of being wired and flat at the same time, the body that stops responding no matter how hard you push.
ou are not burned out because you are weak. You are depleted because you have been giving everything and not replenishing the foundation.
I am writing this from an RV somewhere between Yellowstone and home.
I want to be honest with you about where I actually am right now, because I think you deserve that more than a polished ending.
I have not worked out in two weeks. I have not lifted weights in two weeks — and that is the longest I have ever gone without the gym in my entire adult life. The hikes on this trip were minimal. I have been still in a way I am not used to.
And I am sitting with something on this trip that I think is important: what worked for me in my early 30s is not working for me in my late 30s. My kids have different demands now. My business has exploded. The version of me who could grind through everything and recover fast — she is asking for something different now.
I miss the gym. I know I need it — for my dopamine, for my nervous system, for my business, for my genes. But I also know that the pace I was keeping was part of what was draining me. I am trying to figure out what balance actually looks like when I get home. Not less ambition. Not less drive. Just a different rhythm.
Here is what I do know: I am not spotting anymore. I have no PMDD symptoms. No PMS tenderness. No week before my period where I want to burn everything down. My libido is coming back. I ovulated on this trip, which is genuinely hard to do when your nervous system is under stress. Some things are shifting. I am not on the other side — but I can feel the other side from here.
I am telling you this because I think too many health accounts only show you the after. I want to show you the middle. Because that is probably where you are too.
If any part of what I just described sounds familiar — if you have been pushing through and wondering why the spark is gone — I want you to take the next step.
I put together a free Histamine Bucket Checklist that walks you through exactly what is likely keeping your body in a state of chronic depletion. It is the first thing I look at with every single client.
And if you already downloaded it — go back and read it with fresh eyes. Circle the things that apply to you.
Then reply and tell me: does this sound like you? I am still reading every single one.